Ditching the dummy: a milestone achievement
A cloud has been lifted in Cool Bananas HQ this week: a momentous achievement, some may even call it (bah! That sounds ever so OTT). For the first time in donkeys, I can see Bear’s most gorgeous face in all it’s grubby-cuteness glory, minus the plastic monstrosity that’s been a somewhat permanent fixture on there: the blasted binky, a pesky pacifier, that sodding dummy.
Unless of course, we have a nose-picking fail, & in that instance his face is somewhat obscured like this……
In all fairness, I really haven’t been overly bothered by his obsessive relationship with his ‘dum dum’. To be honest, there was a part of me that thought it was really quite endearing: it was an element of ‘baby’ that he still maintained. Although he is now a fully-fledged toddler, there was something so innocent & sweet about his dependence upon this comforter, that melted my heart. The way he delicately treated it, how it could soothe away his woes: an image & memory that took me straight back to the baby days. Those days which now seem so far away. I felt confident *kidded myself* that when he was ready, he’d give it up happily, willingly.
Describing this moment as ‘momentous’ for me sums up the emotions I feel perfectly. For it is such an ordinary moment, which I know in a few years will seem so inconsequential: yet currently it’s representative of a new chapter to us (excuse me whilst I just have a quick sob). I fully embrace all of Bears developmental milestones, or social achievements: it is truly amazing to witness him blossom, an honour to be by his side throughout his accomplishments (Not a single day will pass by, without me counting those lucky stars for being blessed with him in our life) New chapters are always tinged with a little sadness, closing the door on the baby days, memories made, time you will never regain. Remembering. Vowing to never forget those times gone by. Scared you will. Petrified by how quickly time vanishes, & all the new experiences that await your journey *reaches for the tissues, again*
Dummys/ pacifiers/ binkys: they can be a hotly debated topic amongst the parenting community. Before having a child I sat on the fence about them, unsure what all the fuss was about? I personally don’t see the problem in them-their design is orthodontic friendly (more so than thumb sucking, or so I’ve been told) & if Bear develops an overbite of the jaw in the future-I’m pretty convinced that’s going to be genetically inherited, from Mr Bananas or I.
& FYI any dummy haters: Hell hath no fury like my Bear having a stinkin’ tantrum. Sure, pacifiers don’t look pretty: there have been many occasions when a photo opportunity has be ruined, ‘photo-bombed’ if you will, by this piece of junk. But quite frankly, if it helps defuse a strop & prevents my eardrums from becoming perforated by the high pitch screams, I’ll happily accept help from this unattractive accessory.
How did we manage this transition I hear you ask? Did we use the much-discussed ‘dummy tree’ or ‘dummy fairy’ story technique to explain the absence? No siree Bob! We went straight up, cold turkey. After one dummy too many being bitten though, shouty mummy may have piped up (she defiantly did, momentarily) We calmly explained to Bear that he would no longer need a ‘dum dum’ because he was too big for them: with too many teeth & that these were for babies who had none. He nodded in agreement ‘Whoo hoo!’ I thought, perhaps clearly far too prematurely: what then ensued can be described as a deafening, headache inducing, screaming fit. Oh.the.joy. After this period of ‘grieving’ he expressed for his good friend Le Binky, calm descended & we haven’t looked back. Phew!! & He now proudly announces to all whom will listen ‘No dumdum, no more!’ waving his hands wildly & pointing at his mouth.
So we say: Buh bye Binky, so long sucker (see what I did there? Sucker, ha), we’ve ditched you dumdum. Cheers to you, pacifier pal: for the memories, for being a good friend (of sorts) to our little bear. & I’m eternally grateful for the moments of peace & quite you provided.