Ditching the Dummy……

Ditching the dummy: a milestone achievement

A cloud has been lifted in Cool Bananas HQ this week: a momentous achievement, some may even call it (bah! That sounds ever so OTT). For the first time in donkeys, I can see Bear’s most gorgeous face in all it’s grubby-cuteness glory, minus the plastic monstrosity that’s been a somewhat permanent fixture on there: the blasted binky, a pesky pacifier, that sodding dummy.

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Whoo hoo! I can see his face! (& what a lovely little face it is!)

Unless of course, we have a nose-picking fail, & in that instance his face is somewhat obscured like this……

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In all fairness, I really haven’t been overly bothered by his obsessive relationship with his ‘dum dum’. To be honest, there was a part of me that thought it was really quite endearing: it was an element of ‘baby’ that he still maintained. Although he is now a fully-fledged toddler, there was something so innocent & sweet about his dependence upon this comforter, that melted my heart. The way he delicately treated it, how it could soothe away his woes: an image & memory that took me straight back to the baby days. Those days which now seem so far away. I felt confident *kidded myself* that when he was ready, he’d give it up happily, willingly.

Describing this moment as ‘momentous’ for me sums up the emotions I feel perfectly. For it is such an ordinary moment, which I know in a few years will seem so inconsequential: yet currently it’s representative of a new chapter to us (excuse me whilst I just have a quick sob). I fully embrace all of Bears developmental milestones, or social achievements: it is truly amazing to witness him blossom, an honour to be by his side throughout his accomplishments (Not a single day will pass by, without me counting those lucky stars for being blessed with him in our life) New chapters are always tinged with a little sadness, closing the door on the baby days, memories made, time you will never regain. Remembering. Vowing to never forget those times gone by. Scared you will. Petrified by how quickly time vanishes, & all the new experiences that await your journey *reaches for the tissues, again*

Dummys/ pacifiers/ binkys: they can be a hotly debated topic amongst the parenting community. Before having a child I sat on the fence about them, unsure what all the fuss was about? I personally don’t see the problem in them-their design is orthodontic friendly (more so than thumb sucking, or so I’ve been told) & if Bear develops an overbite of the jaw in the future-I’m pretty convinced that’s going to be genetically inherited, from Mr Bananas or I.

& FYI any dummy haters: Hell hath no fury like my Bear having a stinkin’ tantrum. Sure, pacifiers don’t look pretty: there have been many occasions when a photo opportunity has be ruined, ‘photo-bombed’ if you will, by this piece of junk. But quite frankly, if it helps defuse a strop & prevents my eardrums from becoming perforated by the high pitch screams, I’ll happily accept help from this unattractive accessory.

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Photobombed by the dummy!

How did we manage this transition I hear you ask? Did we use the much-discussed ‘dummy tree’ or ‘dummy fairy’ story technique to explain the absence? No siree Bob! We went straight up, cold turkey. After one dummy too many being bitten though, shouty mummy may have piped up (she defiantly did, momentarily) We calmly explained to Bear that he would no longer need a ‘dum dum’ because he was too big for them: with too many teeth & that these were for babies who had none. He nodded in agreement ‘Whoo hoo!’ I thought, perhaps clearly far too prematurely: what then ensued can be described as a deafening, headache inducing, screaming fit. Oh.the.joy. After this period of ‘grieving’ he expressed for his good friend Le Binky, calm descended & we haven’t looked back. Phew!! & He now proudly announces to all whom will listen ‘No dumdum, no more!’ waving his hands wildly & pointing at his mouth.

So we say: Buh bye Binky, so long sucker (see what I did there? Sucker, ha), we’ve ditched you dumdum. Cheers to you, pacifier pal: for the memories, for being a good friend (of sorts) to our little bear. & I’m eternally grateful for the moments of peace & quite you provided.

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  1. 25/07/2014 / 8:49 PM

    My little boy never had a dummy but there are certainly times I wish he had. I did try once but after never taking a bottle and leaving trying a dummy too late it failed miserably! I am so lucky that on the whole he is a happy little 10 month old who never really cries in public just at bedtime. I think I should probably stock up on them for when/if we have baby number 2‚Ķ I won’t be this lucky again LOL


  2. 23/07/2014 / 11:24 PM

    Woohoo, well done for sticking with it – it can’t have been easy x

  3. 13/07/2014 / 2:34 PM

    My eldest had a dummy after getting colic, it helped and we all got some sleep, the dummy fairy came and caused havoc for a few weeks sleep. My youngest sucks her thumb, a lot, not sure how we are going to stop that one!! #sharewithme

  4. 11/07/2014 / 2:16 PM

    I remember so well when my oldest was young, that we decided it was time to get rid of the dummy. She loved it and I stressed about how she would feel when it was gone, as it happens I needn’t have worried as we took it away one night and the next day she was asking and asking for it, so much so that I couldn’t dig it out of the trash as it had gone already. The guilt did eat me up and so I went off to buy a substitute and, guess what? She hated it as it wasn’t the same! and there ended the dummy saga. Lovely to hear about your story x #sharewithme

  5. 10/07/2014 / 9:59 AM

    Ah its the end of an era! I can understand your feelings. Mine never really took to a dummy, but I always found the end of nappies quite similar. But onwards and upwards! x x

  6. 10/07/2014 / 5:18 AM

    Ahhh bless! Congrats on no dum-dum. Way to go bear!!! Cold turkey too. You tough boy you. Love it. I didn’t use one on either of my two but not by choice I tried with both and neither would take to it. Buba was find but Missy Moo took to her thumb instead which is WAY WAY worse because now I can’t take it away and she is sucking it so hard it’s blistering and infected now so it’s a daily struggle to cut it out. Should have had the dum dum to take away. boo. So pleased for you. Thanks so much for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme

  7. 10/07/2014 / 12:12 AM

    We never used dummies, not by design really, all three refused them and we didn’t push it. But, we do have a five year old that sucks his fingers… Think that is going to be a harder habit to break! I’m glad to hear that the transition was relatively straightforward 🙂

  8. 09/07/2014 / 9:01 PM

    Go Bear! Always a momentous occasion, but suddenly somehow they seem so grown up! x

  9. 09/07/2014 / 3:27 PM

    What a clever bear that’s so amazing and I LOVE that he’s so proud that he’s not using his ‘dum-drum’ any more!!!
    Also I love dummy photo bombing haha!! It is an emotional moment but you should be very proud how well you all came through it well done Banana Family, you lovely bunch (hah, I crack myself up…..!)
    Not long to go sooooooo excited to see you 🙂 xx

  10. 09/07/2014 / 2:18 PM

    I can see my two still having them at 18 at this rate so attached are they to them! JJ only has his at night now though. Go you (and Bear!) for breaking they habit! (They definitely ruin photos!) X #sharewithme

  11. 09/07/2014 / 12:49 PM

    Before I had Rachel i wasn’t too keen on dummies and luckily she found her thumb. With Jack however it was a godsend and I worried a lot about how we would take them away. As it happened we had no issues. He just stopped using them because they were old and he no longer liked the texture or feeling of them in his mouth. #totalwin! x #sharewithme

  12. 09/07/2014 / 10:49 AM

    Aww well done Bear! He’s so cute Katrina 🙂 Riley was obsessed with his dummy until one day he bit through it and the only other dummy I had for him was one that was different to his ‘usual’ kind and he didn’t like it so that was that, relatively painless really. Great post and lovely photos xxx #Sharewithme

  13. 09/07/2014 / 10:19 AM

    Katie, you could try stop and grow on her nails so that they taste nasty and she doesn’t want to suck xx

  14. 09/07/2014 / 10:18 AM

    Well done Bear. We are now also dummy free. I always said I’d never use them until I actually had my first child and I was at the shops purchasing one at the first opportunity! #sharewithme

  15. 08/07/2014 / 9:32 PM

    Erm why did this make me emotional? I think maybe because I know this step is approaching for us and like you it’s the last bit of baby I’m clinging to. High five to Bear though for being such a big boy about it all. Now pass me the tissues. Xx

  16. 08/07/2014 / 2:57 PM

    Aw! We didn’t have a dummy, but we did have favourite toys and after I weaned Munch off blankie bear, batty, owl and ratty I gave up! She now drags a wooly owl winter hat everywhere we go. Try having that festering moist thing in all the pics! lol x

  17. Katie @mummydaddyme
    08/07/2014 / 7:22 AM

    Ah well done bear! Neither of mine had dummies, not cause I have anything against them but more cause I heard stories of having to get up lots in the night to put them back in so it freaked me out as I am lazy like that. 😉 Mads does suck her fingers and has done since she was tiny. When we last went to the dentist he said she really needs to stop doing it by 4- ummmmmm what does he want us to do- cut her fingers off?!! 😉

  18. 07/07/2014 / 10:19 PM

    Aww, well done Bear! Eva had her dummy for way too long and so we whipped Noah and Annie’s off them quick-smart at 2. Cold turkey is definitely the best way in my opinion! Good luck to you all with the new transition. Your little man has the sweetest little face! 🙂 xx

  19. 07/07/2014 / 8:41 PM

    Well done to ye both!no mean feat! I didn’t give Amelia a dummy (big regret), I breastfed for 6.5 months, she used me as her dummy,I could have fed her all day because she was using me for comfort! Now she takes her bottle into bed with her! Next time,next baby will be getting a dummy! Ill take a pack with me in my hospital bag!xx

  20. 07/07/2014 / 7:31 PM

    HOORAY! We gradually weened my girl off by not letting her have it during the day then at 3? We gave it to Father Christmas to give to Ruldolph and that was that! xxx

  21. 07/07/2014 / 3:14 PM

    Aww, well done Bear and well done and yes what a handsome little face you can now see. Harley never had a dummy… Goodness knows I tried!! Same for Lola!!! But I remember my sister talking about Santa taking the dummy from under the pillow on Christmas Eve!! Love the photo of you both. Xx

  22. 07/07/2014 / 12:51 PM

    Fab well done bear. We done child Turkey with first 2 and it’s surprising how fast they adapt. My youngest has refused a dummy from day one and has recently found comfort in his finger, I’m not so keen, I can’t go cold turkey for a finger or thumb!

  23. 07/07/2014 / 11:57 AM

    Well done, Bear! What a big boy. 🙂

    Jasmine doesn’t have a dummy but I’ve no problems with them (other than the fact they do spoil photos) – we have one in a kitchen drawer ‘just in case’. If it comes out, so be it, if it doesn’t? Cool.

    Hah, dreading the toddler nose picking stage! Yuck. 😉



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